I love to go down to the dock early in the morning and view the calm, clear glass of the lake. The ripples of every movement are very apparent at this time of day. The jump of a fish. The waves from a passing fishing boat. The impact of a tossed stone. Watching these ripples and waves is peaceful and mesmerizing.
Our words and actions cause emotional ripples and waves. A word of praise, a harsh retort, a snide remark all buffet against those we meet. These comments and actions, which take just a moment, often have a lasting impact on others.
Every Action has an Equal and Opposite Reaction, so states Sir Issac Newton’s third law of physics. While Sir Newton was not talking about emotions, this law does have application. Kind words lead to more kinds words. Screaming tends to lead to more screaming.
Yesterday, I had to make a decision about my behavior. Was I going to allow the actions of another person to impact the way I treated them? Or was I going to live my life my way, regardless of how I had been treated in the past. Some people may call me a wimp, but I chose to show kindness and offer help. Why? First, I believe I am an adult and I don’t want other people’s behavior to dictate mine. Second, I do not want my actions or words to cause another person to stumble.
Life is not about a tit for a tat. Life is bigger than that. People don’t owe me a thing. I owe myself much. My actions have a deep impact on me. If I want to take care of myself, I need to stay true to my own beliefs and share love. Dorky, I know, but it is who I am.
So… Find Love (by Clem Snide) and then give it all away.